Local Man at Odds with College Student Living in His House Over Rent and Chores, Demands She Leave.
A college student has been living rent-free in a local man's house for over seven months, causing tension between the two due to her failure to contribute financially or do chores. The man claims that his daughter of a friend moved in with him last January, expecting to stay for only a semester, but has overstayed her welcome and refuses to help out around the home.
The student was known to leave hair clippings on the bathroom floor, slam doors when confronted, and keep the living room cluttered with boxes that the homeowner had asked her to move. When tensions came to a head, she stopped communicating with him and refused to do her chores.
A local journalist has weighed in on the situation, suggesting that the student is behaving like a sullen teenager who is not respecting her host's space or boundaries. However, he also notes that it's still the homeowner's responsibility to communicate their needs clearly and set expectations for the living arrangement.
The journalist advises the homeowner to have a "state of the arrangement" conversation with the student, outlining what they expect in terms of contributions and respect, and warn her that there will be consequences if she fails to meet those expectations. He also suggests looping in her cousin to help facilitate the situation.
Another reader wrote to ask for advice on how to approach a friend's home where strong fragrances from fabric softener and dryer sheets were overwhelming them during an overnight visit. The journalist advised bringing one's own linens, mentioning it in advance, or simply asking the host if they could avoid using scented chemicals in the guest room.
Ultimately, the journalist emphasized the importance of clear communication in both hosting and being a good guest, saying that guests should be willing to ask for what they need without fear or apology.
A college student has been living rent-free in a local man's house for over seven months, causing tension between the two due to her failure to contribute financially or do chores. The man claims that his daughter of a friend moved in with him last January, expecting to stay for only a semester, but has overstayed her welcome and refuses to help out around the home.
The student was known to leave hair clippings on the bathroom floor, slam doors when confronted, and keep the living room cluttered with boxes that the homeowner had asked her to move. When tensions came to a head, she stopped communicating with him and refused to do her chores.
A local journalist has weighed in on the situation, suggesting that the student is behaving like a sullen teenager who is not respecting her host's space or boundaries. However, he also notes that it's still the homeowner's responsibility to communicate their needs clearly and set expectations for the living arrangement.
The journalist advises the homeowner to have a "state of the arrangement" conversation with the student, outlining what they expect in terms of contributions and respect, and warn her that there will be consequences if she fails to meet those expectations. He also suggests looping in her cousin to help facilitate the situation.
Another reader wrote to ask for advice on how to approach a friend's home where strong fragrances from fabric softener and dryer sheets were overwhelming them during an overnight visit. The journalist advised bringing one's own linens, mentioning it in advance, or simply asking the host if they could avoid using scented chemicals in the guest room.
Ultimately, the journalist emphasized the importance of clear communication in both hosting and being a good guest, saying that guests should be willing to ask for what they need without fear or apology.
But at the same time, I can understand why he's frustrated - it's not cool to leave hair clippings everywhere or slam doors. I think the journalist hit the nail on the head when he said it's both their responsibility to communicate clearly. Maybe they could just have a chill convo about what they're expecting from each other? That way, everyone can feel heard and stuff. And omg, that advice for dealing with strong fragrances in someone's home is soooo relevant! I'd totes bring my own linens next time or just ask if it's okay to avoid scented chemicals. Clear communication is key, right? 
! The dude's gotta chill, fam. I mean, his so-called "friend's daughter" has been living rent-free in his crib for ages and he's still gonna kick her to the curb? That's messed up 
. Like, what does she even need the money for? And those hair clippings on the bathroom floor are just a bonus 
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. And what about boundaries? If the student's not respecting his space, why doesn't he set some clear limits?
It's just gonna be a big ol' mess. And what's with the cousin thing? Is that even necessary? 
. I mean, sure, she shouldn't be living rent-free forever 
, but come on, the guy's being super harsh too. He's got his daughter of a friend staying with him for ages and expecting her to do everything, but then gets mad when she doesn't pull her weight? That's not fair at all 
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It's just a conversation that needs to happen between him and the girl. He should be able to sit down with her and say, "Hey, I appreciate you staying with me, but I need some help around here." That's it.
. The journalist is right tho, the homeowner needs 2 have a chat w/ her about what's expected, but he also has 2 communicate clear & concise. Like, if she's not gonna help out financially, maybe she can contribute w/ some chores or something. And btw, don't even get me started on the hair clippings in the bathroom 
. Ugh, just great 
I'm all about setting boundaries and communicating clearly when it comes to living arrangements... like, what's up with this guy expecting his daughter of a friend to do chores?! 
And the student just slams doors and refuses to communicate? 
I'm all about a "state of the arrangement" convo... that sounds like a solid plan to get things sorted out. And btw, fabric softener can be super annoying... bring your own linens or ask politely, don't feel obligated to deal with it! 
. The journalist is right on point though, clear communication is key here. He should sit her down and have a chat with her about what she can do to contribute without being all snippy about it 
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. I mean, on one hand, it's not cool that the student's just kinda taking over the house and not contributing financially or doing chores 
. But at the same time, the homeowner's gotta step back and communicate their needs better 
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. But hey, maybe the homeowner should try being more considerate and setting clear expectations from the start 
. Maybe they can even have a chat with her cousin to help mediate the situation 
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