Dear Abby: Man blames his mother for robbing him of inheritance

A bitter dispute over inheritance has left a family divided. The situation began six years ago when the writer's mother passed away, leaving behind a substantial inheritance that was promised to her only adult child, the writer's son.

However, the father of the deceased woman had been named as the fiduciary of her estate and followed their trust directives as written, with no exceptions. As a result, the writer's son received a sizeable check but not the amount he had expected. Feeling blindsided by his mother's actions, the son blamed the writer for "stealing" his inheritance and made it clear that he would cut off contact with the rest of the family unless he was compensated to the full amount.

The writer has taken steps to distance themselves from their adult son, excluding him from any monetary distributions from their own trust due to his behavior. This decision is driven by a deep-seated sense of guilt and frustration. The writer's husband had also made it clear that he would not pass on any inheritance to the excluded son.

Experts say that the writer has been right to prioritize family harmony over financial obligations. By leaving the excluded son's share of their estate in trust for their grandsons, the writer can maintain a sense of justice and avoid perpetuating further hurt.

In other news, a woman is seeking advice on how to escape a toxic marriage with an abusive husband who struggles with addiction. Desperate for help, she feels trapped and unsure of where to turn. A local support hotline has advised her that it's time to reach out for assistance, but ultimately, the decision to leave the relationship lies with her alone.

For those struggling in similar situations, there are resources available. The National Domestic Violence Hotline can be contacted at 800-799-7233 or by visiting their website.
 
omg you guys i just read this crazy story about a family divided over inheritance and it's wild 🀯 the mom passed away leaving behind a ton of cash but her son is all bitter because he didn't get the full amount like what even is that? anyway i feel bad for the writer who's taking steps to distance herself from her toxic family member and prioritize her own peace of mind πŸ™ it's not selfish at all, it's actually super healthy and necessary. and can we talk about how empowering it is for women to take control of their own lives and make decisions about their own relationships? especially when they're dealing with abuse or toxicity 🚫 the resources provided at the end are so important too - that hotline number is a lifesaver πŸ“ž
 
I feel so bad for that woman stuck in a toxic marriage πŸ€•, it's like she's trapped in a nightmare and doesn't know how to wake up ☹️. Prioritizing family harmony over financial obligations is a great idea, but can be hard when emotions are running high πŸ’”. I wish her all the best in reaching out for help and taking control of her life πŸ’ͺ.
 
OMG, I'm literally shook by this family drama 🀯! Like, how could someone just cut off all contact with their own flesh and blood over a inheritance? The writer seems like a total saint for standing up for themselves and prioritizing family harmony πŸ’–. And honestly, I don't blame them one bit - they've been through so much already πŸ˜”. Leaving the excluded son's share in trust for the grandkids is like, the ultimate gesture of love and kindness ❀️. Meanwhile, that poor woman struggling with her toxic marriage is just giving me all the feels πŸ’”. You go, girl! Take care of yourself and don't let anyone make you feel helpless 🌟. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is literally a lifesaver, btw πŸ™.
 
I feel so bad for this writer's son πŸ€•. It's like his mom didn't even think about how her actions would affect him all these years later. And now he's making a huge deal out of it? Like, yeah, your mom left you with less than expected and that's totally fair game to cut ties over? πŸ˜’ I'd rather have a family member who doesn't hold a grudge forever.

And honestly, the writer's decision to distance themselves from their son is probably for the best. Can you imagine being in a situation where someone is making you feel this guilty and hurt all these years after the fact? It's not healthy for anyone involved. The writer's choice to leave their excluded son's share of their estate in trust for their grandsons seems like a really loving gesture, imo πŸ€—
 
I gotta say, I'm totally Team Writer here! 😏 I mean, who needs to keep a toxic family member in the loop just because of a big ol' inheritance? My sister went through something similar with her own ex-brother-in-law and it was a total nightmare. The writer's mom may have had some trust issues, but that doesn't give her son carte blanche to start causing drama and threatening to cut off contact.

I get that the writer feels guilty, but sometimes you gotta prioritize your own well-being over other people's entitlements πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ. Leaving that money in trust for their grandkids is a great way to show the son that he can't just dictate how others should behave. And honestly, if he was really so hurt by his mom's actions, maybe he should've communicated with her instead of making everyone else feel guilty? πŸ€”
 
Man, I'm still trying to figure out what's going on with inheritance laws nowadays 🀯. Back in the day, it was all about who was closest to the deceased and could prove it. Now it seems like there are these complicated trust directives that can leave people feeling super blindsided. The writer's son is being super unfair by cutting off contact over a check he didn't even get πŸ˜’.

But seriously though, I feel for the writer and their husband having to deal with this drama. It's hard enough when it comes down to money, but when family relationships are at stake, it can be really tough. Maybe they're doing the right thing by prioritizing their own grandkids' futures over the son's entitled demands? πŸ€·β€β™‚οΈ
 
I'm so torn about this inheritance situation... it's like, the son is being totally unreasonable πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ. I mean, his mom did leave him a decent chunk of change, and he's just acting like it's the end of the world? And now his own family members are being hurt because of it... it's just not fair to cut them out entirely. But at the same time, I can see why they'd want to distance themselves from someone who's being so hurtful. πŸ€”

And can we talk about how toxic that situation is? The son's behavior towards his siblings and even their parents is just appalling πŸ˜’. It's no wonder the writer felt guilty and frustrated. But you know what? I think it's great that they're taking steps to prioritize family harmony over financial obligations. Leaving everything in trust for their grandsons might not be the most ideal solution, but at least it shows they're trying to do the right thing πŸ™.

Anyway, I just wish there was a more straightforward way to resolve this kind of situation without all the drama and hurt feelings 😩.
 
I feel so bad for this woman stuck in a toxic marriage πŸ€•. It's like she's lost all sense of self and is just surviving day to day. I've seen people like her on Reddit, sharing their stories of feeling trapped and alone πŸ˜”. But honestly, it's time for her to take control and reach out for help! That hotline number is super important - don't let anyone make you feel like you're a burden πŸ™…β€β™€οΈ https://www.thehotline.org/

On another note, I had this weird conversation with my aunt about inheritance and family dynamics... turns out she got a big chunk of her grandfather's estate, but only because he left it to her in his will πŸ€‘. It made me realize that money can be super complicated and emotional πŸ’Έ https://www.theguardian.com/money/2022/jan/17/how-to-avoid-family-feuds-over-inheritance
 
The intricacies of family dynamics can often lead to a labyrinth of emotions and complex moral dilemmas. In this case, I think the writer's decision to prioritize their own well-being over financial obligations is a pragmatic one πŸ‘. By leaving the excluded son's share in trust for their grandsons, they're able to maintain some semblance of connection with their child while also protecting themselves from further hurt.

It's also worth considering that the father's role as fiduciary was likely predetermined by the deceased woman herself, and it's not entirely clear what his motivations were behind following her trust directives so strictly. Regardless, I think it's great to see experts advocating for prioritizing family harmony over financial obligations πŸ’•.
 
I'm literally shook about this family drama πŸ€―πŸ’Έ. It's so sad that the son is being unreasonable and trying to guilt trip his mom into giving him more money πŸ€‘. I think the writer did the right thing by distancing themselves from him and prioritizing their own family harmony πŸ‘ͺ. The fact that they're leaving the excluded son's share in trust for their grandsons is a great way to show they care about justice, not just financial gain πŸ’•.

And on a totally different note πŸ€”, I'm thinking about all the people out there who are stuck in toxic marriages and feel trapped 🚫. It's so important to remember that you don't have to face this alone πŸ€—. There are resources available, like the National Domestic Violence Hotline πŸ’ͺ, where you can get support and guidance. If you're feeling desperate or unsure, just reach out for help πŸ“ž. You got this! #FamilyDrama #ToxicMarriage #DomesticViolenceAwareness #SupportResources
 
I'm so done with these complicated family dynamics πŸ™„! I mean, I get that the son's feelings were hurt, but come on, he's the one who started drama over his mom's inheritance six years ago πŸ€‘. And now the writer is trying to protect themselves and their own family from getting dragged down by toxic behavior πŸ’”. As for the woman in the other story, girl, please reach out to that support hotline ASAP 🚨! You don't have to go through this alone, and there are people who care about you and want to help πŸ€—. And can we talk about how amazing it is that the writer's husband is standing up for their family like that? πŸ’ͺ
 
Family drama πŸ™„... gotta prioritize your own sanity over a bitter inheritance fight. Leaving that toxic son out of the will is actually a pretty clever move πŸ’‘. And good luck to that woman seeking help from her support hotline - she's not alone 😊.
 
I'm still trying to wrap my head around this family drama 🀯. I mean, I get where the writer's son is coming from, but come on! If your mom left you a sizeable inheritance, don't expect her dad to just magically give you more money because you're upset πŸ˜’. And honestly, can we talk about how messed up it is that the dad was named as the fiduciary in the first place? It's like he was expecting this drama all along πŸ€‘.

But what really gets me is when the writer says they've taken steps to distance themselves from their son because of his behavior πŸ˜”. Like, I get it, you're hurt and frustrated, but cutting him off like that isn't going to fix anything πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ. And now they're leaving the excluded son's share in trust for their grandsons? That's just a nice way of saying "we're not giving up on family harmony" πŸ™.

Meanwhile, there's this other story about a woman seeking help from a toxic marriage 😩. I mean, I feel her, girl! Get outta there and get support ASAP πŸ’β€β™€οΈ. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is a real resource, so don't be afraid to reach out πŸ“ž. We got you, sis! πŸ‘―
 
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