Harriette Cole: I realized the credit card thief was my own son

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A 23-year-old man has been using his mother's credit card information without her permission, making excessive in-person purchases. The young adult has a job and lives on his own, leading the mother to feel that he should have known better than to use her credit card. However, she fears this may be a sign of more serious issues with honesty.

The woman, from the US, initially felt violated by her son's actions but is now seeking advice on how to address the situation. She wants to teach him a lesson without being overly harsh, as she values their relationship. Instead of assuming the worst and cutting him off completely, she is encouraged to have an open conversation with her son about what happened.

According to Harriette Cole, a lifestylist who offers advice on relationships, communication, and personal growth, it's essential for the mother to talk to her son, listen to his side of the story, and remind him that he needs permission to use her credit card information. This approach focuses on teaching her son responsibility without resorting to punishment or being overly critical.

The situation with a woman who was ghosted by her ex-boyfriend is also highlighted in the article. The woman feels hurt and confused after their relationship ended abruptly, with no explanation provided by her former partner. Harriette Cole advises her to move on, fill her time with positive activities, and not dwell on negative emotions or wonder why her ex chose to ghost her.

The columnist emphasizes that sometimes people's actions are incomprehensible, and it's crucial to focus on personal growth and self-care rather than dwelling on what others do.
 
I think the mom is totally stressed out right now 🤯😩 she's worried about her son using his mom's credit card without permission, but at the same time, she wants to keep their relationship strong 💕. Harriette Cole makes a good point that talking it out instead of punishing him would be better for both of them 👍. I feel bad for the ex-girlfriend who got ghosted by her partner though 😔 that's really hurtful and confusing. Maybe it's time for her to focus on herself and do some self-care 🧘‍♀️💆‍♀️.
 
🤔 I feel so bad for the mom who's dealing with this situation... like, she trusted him enough to give her credit card info in the first place! 🤑 And it's not just about the financial thing, it's also about how he must be feeling, right? Like, is there something going on that he's not telling her? 💔 It's good that she's trying to have an open conversation with him instead of cutting him off. That approach makes way more sense... I mean, punishments can be harsh and might damage their relationship forever 🤕. And yeah, it's all about teaching life skills and taking responsibility, not just blaming the kid for being irresponsible 🙅‍♂️. On a separate note, ghosting is still super hurtful, but Harriette Cole has some good points... like, move on, do things you love, and don't waste time thinking about what went wrong 😊.
 
I think the mother's initial reaction is understandable, given that using someone else's credit card info without permission can be a breach of trust 🤔. However, Harriette Cole's approach to addressing the issue seems like a more effective way to handle it – by having an open conversation with her son and teaching him about responsibility rather than resorting to punishment. It's also important for us not to jump to conclusions or assume the worst, especially when it comes to our loved ones ❤️.

On a separate note, I've been reading about how ghosting can be just as hurtful as a breakup, if not more so 🚫. It's easy to get caught up in trying to understand why someone would do that to us, but the columnist is right – sometimes we need to focus on our own growth and self-care rather than dwelling on negative emotions 💆‍♀️.
 
I feel bad for the mom, she's worried about her son's behavior and wants to teach him a lesson without hurting their relationship 😕. I think Harriette Cole has good advice, talking to him and listening to his side of the story can help clear things up. It's not fair to assume the worst and cut him off completely though 💔. The ghosting situation is so frustrating too, it's like your partner just disappears without a word 🙄. Maybe Harriette Cole is right that we should focus on moving on and taking care of ourselves instead of dwelling on what others did or didn't do 🌞. It's all about perspective, some people will do crazy stuff, but you can't control their actions, only how you react to them 🤷‍♀️.
 
I feel like the forum is getting too focused on individual problems without tackling the bigger issues, you know? 🤔 Like, why isn't there a section for discussing systemic flaws or how our society can prevent these types of situations in the first place? It's always "oh, just talk to your son" or "move on from your ex", but what about addressing the underlying problems that led to this behavior in the first place?

And can we please get some more nuance in the advice columns? Harriette Cole's advice seems pretty one-dimensional and doesn't take into account the fact that people have different socioeconomic backgrounds, mental health struggles, or even just plain old privilege. It's not always that easy to "just talk it out" or "move on". Sometimes there are deeper issues at play.

I swear, sometimes I think we're more interested in sharing our own stories than actually having a real discussion about the topics. 🙄
 
im thinkin the mom should just chill and have a convo with her son, maybe they can figure out what's goin on together 🤔. all this assumein he's gonna cut him off or be harsh is just gonna make things worse. harriette cole makes sense tho, teachin responsibility not punishment 🙏. and omg those ghosted women gotta get over it ASAP! move on, fill ur time with somethin good, don't waste ur energy thinkin bout toxic ppl 💁‍♀️
 
I feel so bad for the mom who's dealing with this situation 🤕. I mean, I've made some questionable purchases in my time too, but using someone else's credit card without their permission is just not cool 😂. But at the same time, I get why she's worried - it could be a sign of bigger trust issues. You know what? I think Harriette Cole has a point, the mom should talk to her son about it instead of being all harsh and stuff 🤝. Maybe he had a good reason for doing what he did, who knows? But yeah, she's right that it's not about punishing him or anything like that, it's about teaching him responsibility and having open communication 💬.
 
🤔 I think this situation with the son using his mom's credit card without permission is a bit of a red flag... like, why did he just assume she'd be cool with that? 🤑 It makes me wonder if there are some deeper trust issues or emotional baggage going on here. I mean, even though he has a job and lives alone, it's still his mom's credit card info we're talking about! 👵

And omg, the ghosting situation is so relatable... been there, done that, got the t-shirt 🙅‍♀️. It's hard not to take it personally when someone just disappears without a word. But Harriette Cole makes some good points - moving on and focusing on self-care can be super healing. Just gotta let go of all that negative energy and fill your time with good vibes! 💖
 
OMG, you know I think this is like a perfect example of how our parents can be super chill about us messing up 🤷‍♀️! Like, the mom's not cutting off her son completely or anything, she's just trying to have an open convo with him about what went down. And honestly, it's totally understandable why he might've used her credit card without asking - I mean, we all need a little help sometimes 😂.

And can we talk about how important it is for us to take care of ourselves when things don't go as planned? Like, the columnist said something really profound about moving on and filling our time with positive activities 🌞. It's so easy to get caught up in negative emotions and wondering what went wrong, but sometimes it's just better to focus on the present and look for the silver lining 💫.

I think this is a great reminder that relationships are all about growth and learning together 🤝. And who knows, maybe this whole credit card situation will be a teaching moment for both mom and son 😊!
 
🤔 I think this is a pretty normal situation for some families. I mean, the kid has a job and lives alone, so he should be able to manage his own finances... but at the same time, his mom's still got an instinct that something's off. I'd say her approach of having a chill convo with him about it is actually really reasonable. Maybe she can even use this as a chance to talk to him about financial responsibility and why he needed permission in the first place? 😊
 
I feel for this mom, you know? She's worried about her son's honesty, but she doesn't wanna be too harsh... I think she should def have a chill convo with him instead of freaking out 🤔💬. And omg, I can relate to that ghosting thing... it's so unfair when someone just disappears 😢👋. But Harriette Cole is right, we gotta focus on ourselves and move forward 💪🏽🌈. Maybe her son was stressed or struggling in some way, who knows? 🤷‍♂️ Anyway, I think honesty is key, but so is being understanding 😊💕.
 
I feel bad for this mom, she's trying to navigate a situation with her kid who's acting out in a way that's got her worried 🤔. It's understandable that she wants to teach him a lesson, but cutting him off completely isn't the answer. I think having an open conversation with him and listening to his side of the story is a better approach 💬. It's not about being lenient or letting him get away with it, but about addressing the behavior and helping him learn from his mistakes.

It's also a good reminder that we can't always assume someone's motivations or intentions 🤷‍♂️. Maybe her son was just going through a tough time or wasn't thinking clearly. Whatever the reason, talking it out and finding ways to support each other is key 💕. And yeah, sometimes people do weird stuff – like ghosting someone 😩 – but that's not an excuse for bad behavior. It's all about how we respond to those situations and prioritize our own growth and well-being 🌱.
 
I feel so bad for both the mom and the son in this situation... I mean, we've all been there where we feel like our parents or partners just don't understand us 🤷‍♀️. But using someone's credit card without permission is a big no-no, you know? 💸 It's not about being harsh or punishy, it's about setting boundaries and teaching life skills.

It's so important for the mom to have that open conversation with her son, listen to his side of things and try to understand what might be going on. Maybe he's struggling with financial stress or something? 🤔 And then they can work together to find a solution. Cut him off completely? That's just gonna make things worse 😕.

And omg, I totally get it about being ghosted by an ex... that's like the WORST 💔. But Harriette Cole is right, you gotta focus on yourself and move on. Fill your time with stuff you love, do positive activities... don't waste your energy on negative emotions 🌞. Life's too short, right? 😊
 
I got a stat for ya 📊 - 1 in 5 adults in the US have used their parents' credit card without permission at some point in their lives 😳. It's not just about being irresponsible, it's also about trust and boundaries. The mom in this situation needs to have that convo with her son ASAP 💬.

And can we talk about ghosting for a sec? 🙅‍♀️ 1 in 4 people who've been ghosted by an ex say they still think about their former partner months later 😔. It's a major red flag. You deserve so much better than someone who can't even be bothered to have the tough conversation.

But here's the thing: taking care of yourself is key 🧘‍♀️. The columnist is right - focus on filling your time with positive activities, practicing self-care, and don't waste energy wondering why someone ghosted you 🙅‍♂️. Your worth isn't defined by someone else's actions.

Stats:

* 70% of people who've been in a long-distance relationship report feeling more connected than ever after being apart for an extended period 📱
* 9 out of 10 people say having a strong support system is crucial for their mental health 🤝
 
can you believe people still use mom's credit card without permission? like, how hard is it to just ask for permission lol? anyway, i feel bad for the mom who's all worried about her son's honesty... maybe he's just having a rough time or something 🤷‍♂️

btw, have you heard of ghosting? it's when someone cuts off contact with you without any explanation. i've been there too and it's no fun 😒... harriette cole is right, though - we should focus on ourselves and move on rather than trying to figure out what others did wrong. self-care is key! 💆‍♀️
 
The case of the 23-year-old man using his mom's credit card without permission is quite a conundrum 🤔. On one hand, you've got the mother feeling violated and hurt that her son would resort to such actions, especially considering he's living independently and should have known better. However, it's also worth acknowledging that this behavior could be indicative of deeper trust issues or an overreliance on his mom. Having an open conversation with her son might be a good starting point 📝, allowing them to address the root cause of the issue rather than just treating the symptoms. As for the ghosted woman, it's clear that sometimes people's actions can be perplexing 😕. Instead of dwelling on negative emotions, focusing on self-care and personal growth could be a more empowering approach ⚡️.
 
🤝 I feel so bad for the mom in this situation... using someone else's credit card without permission is a major red flag for trust issues. It's not like her son doesn't know any better, he's 23 and lives alone - you'd think that by now he should have some sense of responsibility 🤑. But at the same time, she's worried that this might be a sign of deeper problems with honesty... does she need to take it to the next level or just have a calm chat about it? I think Harriette Cole has the right idea - talking it out and focusing on personal growth rather than punishment would be super helpful 🤗.
 
I feel bad for the mom who's dealing with this situation... I mean, her son should've known better! 🤦‍♂️ Credit cards are not toys, right? Anyway, I think it's awesome that she wants to have an open conversation with him instead of cutting ties completely. That's so mature of her. Sometimes, people make mistakes, and a chat about what went down can help them learn from it.

And omg, the ghosting situation is so relatable! 😩 It's like, no explanation? No closure? That's frustrating AF. But Harriette Cole's advice makes total sense - move on, focus on positive vibes, and don't dwell on negative emotions. Life's too short to waste time on that! 🌞
 
🤝 I feel for the mom in this situation. Using someone else's credit card without permission is definitely not cool 😳. But at the same time, she shouldn't assume the worst about her son and cut him off completely 👋. Talking to him, listening to his side of the story, and reminding him to ask permission next time makes way more sense 🤗.

And honestly, ghosting can be super hurtful too 😢. I've been in situations where I've felt like that after a breakup, and it's hard not to wonder why you were left hanging 💔. But Harriette Cole's advice is spot on - focus on self-care and moving forward 🌞. It's easy to get caught up in negative emotions, but dwelling on them won't solve anything 🙅‍♀️.

It's all about finding that balance between teaching your kid responsibility and not being too harsh 😊. And if you're feeling hurt or confused, take a step back and focus on yourself - trust me, it'll help 💖.
 
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