Caught up in a violent attack, would you be a hero – or would you run? Both can be valuable | Emma Kavanagh

'Hero or Hider: The Paradox of Human Response to Trauma'

The recent train attack in Cambridgeshire has left many people wondering how they would react in a similar situation. Would we be the heroes who risked our lives to help others, or those who ran away to save ours? It's a question that highlights the complexity of human response to trauma.

While the "fight or flight" response is often cited as the body's natural reaction to danger, research suggests that there's more to it than that. As humans, we're a social species with an innate desire to connect and care for one another. In emergency situations, this can manifest in two opposing responses: fighting to confront the threat, or fleeing to protect ourselves.

The key difference lies in our individual schemas - mental models of how we'd behave in such situations. Those who have imagined themselves as heroes are more likely to stay calm and offer aid to those in need. In contrast, individuals who fear their own vulnerability may instinctively flee.

However, it's essential to acknowledge that running away doesn't equate to cowardice. Fear is a natural response when faced with danger, and removing oneself from the situation can be the rational thing to do. Once we've done what our instincts have told us to do, new opportunities arise - often in the form of helping others.

What turns someone into a helper? According to Emma Kavanagh, a psychologist who has worked extensively with emergency services and military personnel, it's a combination of factors: having experienced emergencies before, identifying as someone who does good things, and having learned how to manage one's fear reaction.

The aftermath of trauma can be just as challenging. Survivors may struggle with painful recollections, sleep difficulties, and emotional turmoil - but these feelings are temporary. As the initial stress response fades, they incorporate new experiences into their understanding of themselves, often leading to a sense of post-traumatic growth.

While being "scarred" by an experience like this can be permanent, it doesn't define someone's identity forever. In fact, many people who have lived through traumatic events report emerging stronger and more resilient as a result.

The question remains: would you risk your life to help others, or flee from danger? The truth is, both responses are valuable - and it depends on who we are as individuals, our schemas, and our experiences.
 
I mean think about it... 🤔 back in my day we never thought twice before rushing into a burning building to rescue someone trapped inside. Nowadays it's all about personal safety first, and I'm not gonna lie, that makes sense too 😊. But at the same time, if you're just gonna stand by and watch while someone's life is slipping away... well, that's just not right 🚫.

I've seen some of my mates struggle with PTSD after a traumatic event, and it can be really tough to deal with. But the thing is, they didn't let it define them 😊. They found ways to manage their feelings, support each other, and even came out stronger on the other side 💪.

So yeah, I think it's all about perspective 🌆. We're not just one-dimensional heroes or cowards, we're complex human beings with our own set of experiences and emotions 🤯. And that's what makes us tick 🔔.
 
I'm not buying this whole "schemas" thing 🤔. I mean, what's the science behind these mental models that supposedly dictate how people respond to trauma? Is there a single study or expert that proves these schemas exist? It just sounds like psychological mumbo-jumbo to me 🙄. And let's be real, fear is a natural response when faced with danger - it doesn't make sense to call fleeing from harm "courageous" 💁‍♀️. I want to see some solid evidence before I start accepting this as fact 📊.
 
🤔 This train attack in Cambridgeshire got me thinking... I think people often forget that trauma response is super complex & can't be reduced to just 'hero' or 'hider'. What's fascinating is how our individual thought patterns (schemas) influence what we do in emergency situations. For some, being a hero feels natural & they'll stay calm to help others. But for those who fear vulnerability, fleeing seems like the rational choice... yet it doesn't mean they're cowardly! 🙅‍♂️

It's also interesting that trauma can lead to growth, not just scars. I think people often forget that survivors can emerge stronger & more resilient on the other side. It's all about how we respond to our experiences & what we learn from them... 💡
 
🤩 I totally get why people might freeze up in the moment, especially if they've never had to deal with something like that before! It's not about being a hero or a coward, it's about survival 🙏♀️. I think it's amazing how some ppl can just go into "help mode" and others need time to process their emotions 😊. What I love is that there's no one-size-fits-all answer here - we're all unique in our responses to trauma, and that's what makes us so special 💖!
 
omg i think this article is sooo interesting 🤯 i mean, can u imagine being in a situation where u have to choose between being brave and helping others or just running away 4 ur own safety? 😱 i think we all have that moment inside us at some point where our instincts take over but our brain tells us to be rational lol

i love how it says that fear doesn't mean u r cowardly, u know? like, we can't control everything that happens around us, and sometimes the most heroic thing 2 do is just take care of urself first 🤗 and then when u feel ready, u can help others.

and omg, i totally agree w/ Emma Kavanagh about how having experienced emergencies before and being good with managing fear reactions makes someone more likely to become a helper 😊 it's like our brains are wired 2 respond in certain ways 2 stress & trauma

anywayz, this article has made me think a lot about myself and what i'd do if i were in that situation 🤔
 
🤔 I've seen this happen in real life after that big fire in London a few years ago... people were literally running for their lives but some were stopping to help others, even if they didn't know them 🚒💨 it's crazy how different our minds can be when faced with trauma. I think what Emma Kavanagh said about schemas makes total sense - like, my friend was always the one who'd save dogs from floods and then she went through a traumatic experience herself but suddenly became even more empathetic towards others 🐕💖 it's not just about being brave or cowardly, it's about how our brains process fear and trauma. And yeah, I think post-traumatic growth is a real thing... I've seen people come out of traumatic situations stronger and wiser 💪🌱
 
I think people tend to put too much pressure on themselves to be heroes in emergency situations 🤔. We're human, after all! Our brains aren't wired to respond the same way every time. What's most important is that we try to stay calm and not let fear take over 💆‍♀️. If someone needs help, it's great if you're able to provide it – but it's also okay to prioritize your own safety. We can't always know how others will react in the heat of the moment 😬. I think what Emma Kavanagh said about schemas being a key factor is really insightful 📚. It means we all have our own unique ways of coping with trauma, and that's what makes us so... human 🌎.
 
I think its not that simple 🤔... I mean, if ur in a situation where u gotta choose between saving urself or someone else, it's not like u can choose to be both at the same time lol! but seriously tho, i think its all about how we learn 2 cope with danger & trauma. like, if u r in a situation where u feel safe n secure, u might be more likely 2 help out, but if ur feeling super anxious or scared, u just wanna get away from it ASAP. maybe thats why theres so many hero & villain stories, its just human nature 🤷‍♂️...
 
🤔 I think what's really interesting about this whole thing is that we tend to label people as heroes or villains based on their actions in emergency situations, but there's so much complexity involved. Like, imagine being in a situation where you're literally running out of time and your brain just tells you to GET OUT OF THERE ASAP... can you really blame someone for doing that? 🚨 And at the same time, if someone does choose to stay and help others, it doesn't mean they're automatically a hero - it's all about the individual's unique mental model. Maybe they've got experience with emergencies from their past or maybe they just genuinely care about people. Either way, we need to recognize that both responses are valid and not one-up each other.

I also think this article brings up some great points about post-traumatic growth - like how being through traumatic experiences can shape us into stronger, more empathetic people in the long run. It's not about being "scarred" forever or anything bad happening to you... it's about how we choose to see ourselves and others after something really tough happens.
 
I feel so bad for everyone affected by that train attack 🚂😱. I think what's crazy is how different people respond to trauma. Like, some people are born heroes, you know? They'd risk their lives to save others without even thinking twice 🙏. But then there are those who are like me - always on the lookout for potential dangers and wanna protect themselves first 😬.

I think it's cool that research is showing that our experiences shape us into helpers or hiders. I mean, if you've been in some traumatic situations before, you're more likely to be calm under pressure 🤯. But it's also not just about the past - it's about who we are as people, right? Like, if you believe you do good things, you're more likely to help others 🌟.

And I love what that psychologist Emma Kavanagh said - it's all about managing our fear reaction 💡. Once we can do that, we open ourselves up to new experiences and growth. Trauma can be tough, but it doesn't define us forever 🔥. In fact, it can make us stronger 💪.

I think what's so important is acknowledging that running away isn't cowardly - it just means you've got a different response system going on 🙅‍♂️. And honestly? I don't know if I'd ever be able to risk my life like some heroes do 😨. But I do know that everyone has their own way of coping, and that's what matters 💕.
 
YOU KNOW IM A BIG BELIEVER IN THE POWER OF SELF-CARE AFTER GOING THROUGH A TRAUMATIC EVENT! FOR ME, IT'S ALL ABOUT FINDING THAT BALANCE BETWEEN BEING STRONG AND TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF. I MEAN, WE CAN'T JUST RUN AWAY FROM OUR FEARS AND EXPECT TO COME OUT THE OTHER SIDE OKAY? BUT AT THE SAME TIME, I DON'T THINK IT'S FAIR TO JUDGE PEOPLE FOR FLEEING IN AN EMERGENCY - FEAR IS A NATURAL RESPONSE AND WE SHOULD BE KIND TO EACH OTHER WHEN WE'RE GOING THROUGH THOSE MOMENTS.
 
You know what's wild? I was at the park with my friends last weekend and saw a squirrel literally take down a bird that was trying to steal its nest 🐿️😱. Like, who does that? And I'm thinking about how some people might react in similar situations - would they be heroes or hiders? But what's crazy is that even when we're not facing actual danger, our brains are still wired to respond like we are 🤯. I was at the grocery store yesterday and saw this lady pushing her cart really fast because she thought someone had cut off her kid from the stroller 😩. She didn't know it wasn't her kid! Can you imagine if that happened to everyone? It's all about our experiences and how we react to them, right?
 
I think people make themselves out to be total heroes after something bad happens and they end up saving loads of lives 🙌. But what about those who aren't cut out for that sorta thing? We're all different, right? Like, my mate's little sister had a panic attack during a fire drill at school and she freaked out 🤯. It doesn't mean she's some kinda coward or anything. She was just scared and needed to get outta there. But then later on, she started volunteering at the local animal shelter and it really helped her come out of her shell 😊.
 
🤔 I mean, think about it... humans are super complex, right? We got this whole "fight or flight" thing going on, but also this instinct to connect with each other. It's not just about being a hero or hiding - it's about what's going on inside our heads. Our mental models, our schemas, they play a big role in how we react to trauma. And let's be real, fear is real... sometimes you gotta take care of yourself first before you can help others. It's not cowardly, it's just rational. 🤷‍♀️
 
🤔 So I've been thinking about this article and honestly I think people make it way too simple. We're not just gonna be heroes or hiders, we're like that in between. 🌈 There's so many factors at play here and everyone's reaction is gonna be different. Like what if you're scared but also have some experience with helping others? Or maybe you're someone who usually keeps to themselves but something like this pushes you out of your comfort zone? 🤷‍♀️ The thing is, we all know someone who's reacted in a way that seems extreme to us, and probably there's someone reacting in the opposite way too. It's not just about being brave or scared, it's about what our brains are wired to do in those situations. 😊
 
man this article is like totally mindblowing 🤯 i mean think about it if you've ever been in a situation where you had to make a split second decision would you be the one running away from danger or trying to help others out? for me personally i feel like we all have this inner hero that just needs to be unlocked 😊 so maybe instead of fighting or fleeing we should focus on building those schemas and learning how to manage our fear reactions so when it really matters we can step up and do what's right 👊
 
Ugh, I'm so over this forum's comment section 🙄. Can't people just have a respectful discussion without getting all sensationalized? Like, can we please focus on the actual article instead of speculating about each other's reactions to trauma? It's all so... emotional 🤯.

I mean, what if I had been in that situation and just wanted to get out alive? Does my fear make me a coward? 🤔 The whole "schemas" thing is pretty interesting, though. Like, I've always thought of myself as someone who'd be more likely to stay calm in an emergency, but now I'm questioning everything 🤷‍♀️.

It's also kinda cool that the article talks about post-traumatic growth and how people can emerge stronger on the other side. That gives me some hope, you know? Maybe we don't have to define ourselves by our experiences... maybe we can learn from them and grow 🌱. Anyway, just a random thought...
 
idk about this "hero" thing... it's all so simplistic 🤔 I mean, what about people who have actually seen trauma up close & personal? Do they just magically turn into heroes overnight or is that just some idealistic thinking? and what about those who are just trying to survive after experiencing something horrific? calling running away cowardice might be a bit harsh 😒 i think it's more complicated than that... sometimes you gotta take care of yourself first before you can help others.
 
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