Man's Ex-Wife Shows Up on Vacation Plans Despite Decades of Separation
When a couple was finally planning a trip together, one man's brother dropped a bombshell: he wanted his ex-wife to join them for a family cruise. The ex-wife, who has been divorced from the man for decades, has recently been diagnosed with early-stage dementia.
The woman in question had been dating the man for several years and was understandably hurt when she found out about the trip. She felt that her partner's brother was disregarding their relationship by including his ex-wife, who he could easily afford to care for himself.
"I'd be okay with him not taking either of us," the woman wrote, "but not with choosing her over me." The man had been a faithful companion and was hurt by this decision.
Dear Abby weighed in on the situation, stating that the brother seemed oblivious to the couple's long-standing relationship. A more practical solution would have been for the man to invite his partner along and split the cost of including his ex-wife.
In contrast, another reader was dealing with a much more serious issue: her husband's secret illness diagnosis. She had recently gone through a separation and was trying to support her children, who were struggling with their own mental health challenges.
The woman felt that she deserved to be informed about her ex-husband's condition so that she could offer support to both of their children. However, her ex-husband refused to explain what was happening, leaving her in the dark.
Dear Abby advised the reader that while it's understandable that she wants information, there may come a point when she has to accept limited knowledge and focus on supporting her own children. The advice came as a sympathetic ear for this troubled couple, who are navigating complicated relationships, health issues, and the strain of caregiving responsibilities.
In both cases, the advice from Dear Abby was clear: be practical and considerate in your dealings with others, but also prioritize what's best for yourself and those closest to you.
When a couple was finally planning a trip together, one man's brother dropped a bombshell: he wanted his ex-wife to join them for a family cruise. The ex-wife, who has been divorced from the man for decades, has recently been diagnosed with early-stage dementia.
The woman in question had been dating the man for several years and was understandably hurt when she found out about the trip. She felt that her partner's brother was disregarding their relationship by including his ex-wife, who he could easily afford to care for himself.
"I'd be okay with him not taking either of us," the woman wrote, "but not with choosing her over me." The man had been a faithful companion and was hurt by this decision.
Dear Abby weighed in on the situation, stating that the brother seemed oblivious to the couple's long-standing relationship. A more practical solution would have been for the man to invite his partner along and split the cost of including his ex-wife.
In contrast, another reader was dealing with a much more serious issue: her husband's secret illness diagnosis. She had recently gone through a separation and was trying to support her children, who were struggling with their own mental health challenges.
The woman felt that she deserved to be informed about her ex-husband's condition so that she could offer support to both of their children. However, her ex-husband refused to explain what was happening, leaving her in the dark.
Dear Abby advised the reader that while it's understandable that she wants information, there may come a point when she has to accept limited knowledge and focus on supporting her own children. The advice came as a sympathetic ear for this troubled couple, who are navigating complicated relationships, health issues, and the strain of caregiving responsibilities.
In both cases, the advice from Dear Abby was clear: be practical and considerate in your dealings with others, but also prioritize what's best for yourself and those closest to you.
This dude's brother is lowkey shady! I mean, can't he see how hurtful it'll be to invite his ex-wife on a family vacation? That woman just found out she has dementia 
and now she's gonna ruin the trip for everyone? It's like he didn't think that one through 
. If he really cares about his brother, he'd find a way to take care of her on his own or something!
. Can we get some moderation around here? A dude plans a family cruise with his brother and then his ex-wife just shows up uninvited because she thinks her ex is being insensitive to her feelings. Like, get real 
. And another couple dealing with serious issues like dementia and secret illness diagnoses? It's just too much. Can't we have some more nuanced discussions around here without all the drama?
, fam, this is just wild! I mean, I get it, family drama can run deep, but come on, dude's ex-wife shows up uninvited like that? Like, didn't he think that'd be a major faux pas considering their decades-long separation? And on top of that, his brother just brings her along as if she's just an old friend or something 
. And now the man is hurt because his bro prioritized his ex-wife over him... I feel bad for this guy, but like, what did he expect?
. But you know what? I kinda get it too - as hard as it is to take, sometimes we gotta put our own needs first and not get caught up in someone else's mess.
. And fam, if you're gonna bring your ex-wife to a family cruise, at least have the decency to discuss it with the current partner first 
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Like, decades of separation and he still chooses his ex-wife over his partner? 
That's some messed up sibling dynamics right there. 
Early-stage cases are on the rise and it's affecting families in major ways. 
The cost of caregiving can be astronomical and emotional toll is no joke either. 
This is such a tough spot for the man and his partner. On one hand, it's lovely that he wants to include his ex-wife on the family cruise, especially since she's recently been diagnosed with early-stage dementia. But on the other hand, his partner has every right to feel hurt and left out, given their long-standing relationship 
. Maybe the man could've invited his partner along on the cruise and split the cost with his ex-wife? That way, everyone would feel included and supported 
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). It's a good reminder to prioritize ourselves and our loved ones' well-being when we're dealing with complicated family situations 
That's just cold. I get that the ex-wife has dementia, but come on, can't they just have a conversation about it instead of hurting each other's feelings? 
As much as I feel for the wife, I think it's good that Dear Abby is telling her to prioritize her own kids' well-being. 
and i'm super excited! i asked him about the guest list and he told me it's going to be a big family affair with like 100+ people 
the more serious one though is a whole different story... separation ain't easy but knowing about the secret illness diagnosis? that's harsh on everyone involved especially the kids 
. But at the same time, I get why his brother wouldn't think twice about inviting his ex-wife – it's not like she's going to burden him financially or anything... until now that is 
. If I were in those situations, I'd want to know what's going on and support my loved ones 
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... so, apparently, some dude's brother invites his ex-wife on a family vacation despite them being separated for decades! like, what even is that? 
. anyway, it's clear that dude was just caught off guard and didn't think things through.
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... and that sister of his is like, totally clueless 
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... sometimes we gotta prioritize our own well-being and focus on what's best for ourselves and our loved ones