Sex in long-term relationships: where is the conversation?
In today's society, sex has become an awkward topic to discuss, especially when it comes to long-term relationships. Natasha Sholl, a 17-year-married woman, is questioning why her friends and she avoid talking about their intimate lives despite having open conversations about other aspects of their lives.
It seems that the taboos surrounding sex in long-term relationships stem from the idea of respecting boundaries and protecting partners from scrutiny. However, this logic fails to acknowledge the reality of deep and respectful friendships. Sholl shares her own experiences with friends who have had open discussions about their partners' flaws and imperfections without any negative consequences.
Sholl's observations are supported by a recent example where Robert Delaney shared his experience of having sex twice while his one-year-old son underwent brain surgery. This intimate moment was not only validating but also highlighted the importance of communication in relationships, especially during difficult times.
The notion that married sex needs a rebrand is a valid concern. The stigma surrounding long-term relationships and intimacy can lead to assumptions about decreased libido and reduced desire for sex. However, Sholl argues that practice makes perfect, and it's possible that couples may need to work on their intimate lives just like any other aspect of their relationship.
Ultimately, the conversation around sex in long-term relationships needs to shift away from shame and embarrassment. By sharing our experiences, desires, and struggles with intimacy, we can build stronger connections with our partners and foster a more open and honest dialogue about our sex lives.
As Sholl so candidly puts it, "I want to know you're late for dinner because you had a shower quickie while the kids were watching TV." It's time to break down the taboos surrounding long-term relationships and intimacy, and have an honest conversation about what it means to be in love and connected with someone.
In today's society, sex has become an awkward topic to discuss, especially when it comes to long-term relationships. Natasha Sholl, a 17-year-married woman, is questioning why her friends and she avoid talking about their intimate lives despite having open conversations about other aspects of their lives.
It seems that the taboos surrounding sex in long-term relationships stem from the idea of respecting boundaries and protecting partners from scrutiny. However, this logic fails to acknowledge the reality of deep and respectful friendships. Sholl shares her own experiences with friends who have had open discussions about their partners' flaws and imperfections without any negative consequences.
Sholl's observations are supported by a recent example where Robert Delaney shared his experience of having sex twice while his one-year-old son underwent brain surgery. This intimate moment was not only validating but also highlighted the importance of communication in relationships, especially during difficult times.
The notion that married sex needs a rebrand is a valid concern. The stigma surrounding long-term relationships and intimacy can lead to assumptions about decreased libido and reduced desire for sex. However, Sholl argues that practice makes perfect, and it's possible that couples may need to work on their intimate lives just like any other aspect of their relationship.
Ultimately, the conversation around sex in long-term relationships needs to shift away from shame and embarrassment. By sharing our experiences, desires, and struggles with intimacy, we can build stronger connections with our partners and foster a more open and honest dialogue about our sex lives.
As Sholl so candidly puts it, "I want to know you're late for dinner because you had a shower quickie while the kids were watching TV." It's time to break down the taboos surrounding long-term relationships and intimacy, and have an honest conversation about what it means to be in love and connected with someone.
. Like, who hasn't fantasized about their partner being late for dinner because they had a quickie while the kiddos are watching Peppa Pig 
? But seriously, it's time to break down those stigmas and have an open conversation about intimacy in long-term relationships. I think it's all about setting boundaries and communicating with your partner – after all, sex is like a game of Jenga, you gotta be careful not to ruin the foundation 
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I think its kinda weird how we're so comfortable talking about everything else but our sex lives. Like, sure we may get awkward when talking about it, but thats just 'cause its not something people want to discuss 
. But honestly, Sholl's got a point, if we can talk openly about our flaws and imperfections with friends why cant we do the same thing with our partners? Its all about respect and communication, right? 
but intimate details? nope not on the table fam. i mean, robert delaney's story is literally the opposite of what people say - having a good time with your partner while doing something normal like watching tv doesn't have to be weird at all it just shows that sex ain't one size fits all & we need to stop assuming everyone's libido is shot after 10 yrs of marriage 
it's like we've all just gotten too comfortable, you know? I remember when I was dating, my boyfriend used to tell me all this crazy stuff about what he liked in bed... now it's all just 'no discussion' and it feels kinda weird. And then there's the whole 'men are always stressed' thing... like no one talks about that 
. We should be open about our stuff, you know? It's not like we're asking for a free-for-all or anything... just some honest chat with your partner about what's going on. My friend Sholl is totally right 
sex in ltr relationships is like the elephant in the room ppl are so scared 2 talk abt it lol but Natasha Sholl is like "hey we need 2 stop bein awkward" 
and idk why its still a thing 
like Robert Delaney's story is SO inspiring btw 
. It's crazy that we're so scared to have an open convo with our partners about what makes us happy or not, yet we'll dissect every little thing else 
...the stigma around sex in long-term rlms is just weird 2 me 
...why can't ppl just be open & honest w/ each other about their desires & struggles 
...i think we need 2 shift our mindset & stop worrying about what others might think 
. Im not saying that everyone is like this tho...but maybe we need to rebrand the whole married life thing? Like, just 'cause you're in a long-term relationship doesnt mean your libido has to die 
