When it comes to family gatherings, some people just want to blend in with the crowd. While others prefer to stand out and be a part of the family fold.
Chloe says she doesn't see why Edwin expects her to attend every family gathering, even if it means stepping away from other commitments that are important to her. "I need my own space sometimes," she says. But for Chloe's husband Edwin, family is at the centre of everything.
Edwin grew up in a big, boisterous Colombian family and feels like he needs his partner by his side when they're with relatives. He wants Chloe to feel included and be part of the "us" that includes his extended family. But sometimes that means putting pressure on her to attend events when she's not feeling up to it.
The problem is, Edwin expects too much of Chloe. While he loves kids and being around his family, he forgets that Chloe is a different person with different needs. She grew up without a close relationship with her parents, so she values her independence and likes her own space.
Edwin's expectation that Chloe should always be there for him and his family can come across as thoughtless. He dismisses her need to take care of herself and says she's being rude if she needs time alone. But maybe he just doesn't understand why she needs some time for herself.
Chloe wants Edwin to see things from her perspective. She says she understands that family is important, but it's not fair to expect her to put on a show all the time. She should be able to say no or take a break when she needs to, just like anyone else.
So is Edwin expecting too much of Chloe? The answer is yes, at least sometimes. He needs to understand that his partner has different boundaries and needs, even if it means adjusting his own expectations.
Chloe says she doesn't see why Edwin expects her to attend every family gathering, even if it means stepping away from other commitments that are important to her. "I need my own space sometimes," she says. But for Chloe's husband Edwin, family is at the centre of everything.
Edwin grew up in a big, boisterous Colombian family and feels like he needs his partner by his side when they're with relatives. He wants Chloe to feel included and be part of the "us" that includes his extended family. But sometimes that means putting pressure on her to attend events when she's not feeling up to it.
The problem is, Edwin expects too much of Chloe. While he loves kids and being around his family, he forgets that Chloe is a different person with different needs. She grew up without a close relationship with her parents, so she values her independence and likes her own space.
Edwin's expectation that Chloe should always be there for him and his family can come across as thoughtless. He dismisses her need to take care of herself and says she's being rude if she needs time alone. But maybe he just doesn't understand why she needs some time for herself.
Chloe wants Edwin to see things from her perspective. She says she understands that family is important, but it's not fair to expect her to put on a show all the time. She should be able to say no or take a break when she needs to, just like anyone else.
So is Edwin expecting too much of Chloe? The answer is yes, at least sometimes. He needs to understand that his partner has different boundaries and needs, even if it means adjusting his own expectations.
Interesting, people's expectations can be super overwhelming, especially when it comes to family gatherings 
. I feel for Chloe, she just wants some space to breathe, you know? Edwin's perspective is valid too tho 
, he does want his partner and kids to be part of the crew 
. But sometimes you gotta know your person, ya know? 
. I think it's super unfair to expect someone to be always "on" when you're around family. Like, can't we just have a chill day every now and then? And yeah, Edwin needs to understand that his partner has different priorities too. It's not about being rude or anything, it's just about respecting each other's space. And honestly, I think Edwin should be more considerate of how Chloe feels 
. She's gotta have some alone time, you know? We all need a break from the drama every now and then 
. Edwin just doesn't get it... like, literally gets it, but not really, you know? He's thinking about his own family vibes and forgetting that everyone has their own stuff 
. It's all about balance, fam 
. We gotta respect each other's space, even if we're related by blood or marriage 
. Chloe's not being rude, she's just prioritizing her own well-being, which is low-key amazing 
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. Maybe he should try having a convo with her about it instead of assuming she's always up for whatever? Like, maybe there are events that she can attend and still have some downtime afterwards to chill out? 
he cant expect her 2 be all smiles & laughter alwyz @ family gatherings, its not healthy 4 her 
. Edwin's expectation of Chloe can be seen as a classic case of not considering others' boundaries 
. We gotta remember to respect each other's space and prioritize our own needs too 
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. And honestly, who doesn't need some me-time every now and then? 
, family gatherings aren't about being a "part of the crew" it's about respecting each other's space & boundaries 
. And it's not just about being social, it's about respecting each other's space and needs 
. It's like, we all need a break sometimes, you know? 
. Edwin just needs to chill out a bit (literally) and realize that people need time to recharge too 
. I remember when I was younger, my family used to have these crazy big gatherings and I'd always feel like I'm going to lose myself in the crowd 
. And whats with all these "us" this and "we're part of that family"... sounds like Edwins tryin' to make Chloe feel like she's not gettin' enough or somethin' 
chloe needs space and time to recharge, like who doesn't?! 
Here's a simple Venn diagram to show how their views might overlap:
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